Recently i paid a small fortune for advertising and for footer links, and it never returned any visitors at all to my sites. In fact, on one forum that had supposedly over 100k uv p/m i paid $20p/m and didnt see any trafic results at all.

While im not obsessed with making money, its hurtful when im literally throwing money down the drain with nothing to show for it.

I have several sites that i need to be promoted so that people can find them -> can anyone suggest the best ways to get started? I have read alot of guides / threads and most things recommend spamming your links over peoples blogs and forums, but isnt that a bad thing? I personally hate people who come to my forums and posts ads for viagra, so i dont want to be a scumbag and use techniques that others dont like -> or is that the only way to promote a site?